Entitlement

 

Have you ever met someone who seems to act like the whole world owes them?  Someone who is not satisfied unless their own needs are being met?  Trying to deal with someone who has acted this way can feel frustrating.  In fact, in society, this type of behavior typically attracts strong criticism and condemnation. If this sounds like someone you know, you may be dealing with someone who has a sense of entitlement, defined as "an unrealistic, unmerited, or inappropriate expectation of favorable living conditions and favorable treatment at the hands of others." 

I was the recipient of a strange telephone call from the area where my stalker resides. It seems she is busy and literally sueing the town she lives in. She has declared everything she owns under the guise of a business and yet doesn't want to pay the business fees. She lives within the walls of the business and feels that she should be billed personal fees. Yet, she has declared herself under the business in order to not pay the judgments that she is court-ordered to pay. Yet, she is honest in declaring that she owes no monies to anyone in the State of Idaho! Entitlement!

A sense of entitlement is a personality trait that is based on a person’s belief that they deserve privileges or recognition for things that they did not earn.  In simple terms, people experiencing this believe that the world owes them something in exchange for nothing.  She has a business but lives on the government; she has a business but lives on government healthcare and food stamps. Yet, the rest of us are damned because we pay our bills, feed our families, and care for ourselves by working in the private sector and paying the taxes to which she believes should pay her bills. Interesting way of thinking!

Within this conversation, it was declared that she is absolutely a joke and she will find a way not to pay anyone including the attorneys (I know how this goes). She was called one of the most dishonest persons that the town knows; a "filthy liar and a cheat". We understand that certain personality disorders such as narcissistic personality disorder or antisocial personality disorder may cause such symptoms. The town is beyond feeling sorry for her!

When someone with a sense of entitlement doesn’t get what they want, it is not uncommon for them to lash out at others in anger or frustration.  Maybe their attitude changes often, especially when things don’t go their way. The behaviors that are manifested by a person who has a sense of entitlement is usually rooted in their belief that they should be admired and respected.  Although they may come across as people with a bold personality or a great sense of self-confidence, many people battle personal insecurities.  Unfortunately, their attention-seeking behavior and overbearing personalities often lead to isolation from those who were once family and friends.  This, in turn, can lead to further feelings of isolation and depression.  We left this conversation as being the cause of her malicious behavior and dishonesty. In her reality, she doesn't have to live by the same moral compass as the rest of us but quick to pass judgment! To date, she condemns me for taking care of a invalid husband (she could not and was expelled from his home), condemns me for paying for my own health insurance and other needs, paying my own home mortgage and other necessities, and for not living on government assistance. She condemns me for having made mistakes in my life but at least I am not hated by an entire town and I don't hide behind my business. Everyone that I own and do not own is registered in my personal name! Even the payment of my taxes to the United States Government! 3 or 10 ... this is how life really works! Hmmmm! Even former lovers keep her at arm's length! And how do we know this?!